When we don’t feel we can carry on, and we don’t know how we will make it through today, we have a Grief Bearer to show us the way.

I sat on the floor of my sunroom. The deep red roses, just outside of my window, graced the fence beautifully. Somehow that’s all that I remember seeing that morning. 

I sobbed deeply as I rocked back and forth. The tears rolled down my face and dripped onto the bamboo floor. The pain was so deep within my chest that I didn’t know if I would ever be ok. I wasn’t even sure that I could lift myself off of the floor. 

I was certain I was miscarrying.

I had so many promises and hopes for this baby. How could they be slipping away? Yet, I knew something wasn’t right in my body. It would be another five days before my doctor confirmed what I already knew to be true. I had lost my baby.

She had gobs of dark hair and green eyes. Dressed in a satin, yellow romper with delicate white flowers patterned on it, I could see her sweet face as I lifted my baby girl into the air. Beautiful in every way. I had seen her in a dream, but that would be the only time I would get to see her this side of heaven.

“How could you God?,” I angrily pondered, “Where are You?”

For weeks, I carried on the best way that I knew how. I cried with everything I did. I felt so angry with God. How could a loving God allow such a thing? Loneliness and hopelessness were my constant companion. 

A verse kept rattling around my head, but for weeks I ignored it. I didn’t want to learn any lessons right now. I was keeping my distance from God. I felt He deserved the silent treatment for what happened. 

Finally, I gave in. I looked up Isaiah 53:3.

“He was despised and rejected by men, a man of deep sorrows who was no stranger to suffering and grief…” I sat quietly in my favorite spot on the chocolate brown sofa. I could feel the Lord speak to my spirit, “Do you know why I allow grief?” With resentment seething through me, I sharply replied, “No!” He gently spoke, “Grief is one of the only things that will unravel a soul deeply enough for it to finally heal.” 

He didn’t have to say another word. I knew this was true. Coming from a childhood filled with abandonment and addiction, I knew there were places in my soul that I had sealed off and seared many years ago. 

He spoke again, “A real resurrection can come to all these places if you let it.” 

I was left with a choice to make: run from God and seal off this part of my soul again, or surrender all of this grief to Him and find healing.

I reread the verse. Jesus had deep sorrows too. He was no stranger to suffering and grief. Having felt what I felt, He knew the depths of my grief. At one time, He was so crushed with grief that His body sweated drops of blood. He knew every bit of pain that I was experiencing. He didn’t mind my anger. In fact, he wanted to take my hand and lead me into healing. Because of His wounding, I could find my healing. In His grief, I could find my peace.

He didn’t suffer for nothing, and neither would I. 

Here was the Champion of my heart offering me an invitation. He wasn’t afraid of my pain. Nor my anger. He wasn’t afraid of my grief. He met me right there where I needed Him most. I had rejected Him, but He would never reject me. I blamed Him for my pain, but He responded with gentleness and love.

He led me when I couldn’t see, held me when I couldn’t breathe and comforted me when I felt lost. Real resurrection came when I chose to surrender to the Grief-bearer of my soul.

And the Grief Bearer He is. Step by step and moment by moment, He met me in the deep recesses of my pain and led me to a peaceful place once again. Ever faithful and ever-loving, He leads us through our grief and on the path of healing for our souls.

For what to expect physically after miscarriage, read Miscarriage at 5 Weeks. You may also like Celebrating When Feeling Overlooked.

Original article was published on Her View From Home


Rachel is a Postpartum Nurse of 15+ years. She is also a Spinning Babies® CPE, Childbirth Educator, Published Author, and Recipe Creator. Rachel's passion is to encourage and empower women in all things related to motherhood.


  1. Thank you for allowing us into your grief and also the process of healing. This week my first son would have been 24 years old if not stillborn. It’s still a sorrow deep within, but the Lord has been faithful to comfort and grow me into His likeness. ♥️

    • I’m so sorry for your loss! Stillbirth is devastating. This type of loss is a sorrow that continues to come in waves, and I’m sure always will until we meet again. Hugs to your mama heart!

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